Welcome One Welcome All To Another Episode Of Watch The Dubb Thursdays!
Where the mottos is “You ain’t gotta fake it in here”
We got a personal issue question to speak on tonight? I think we all have dealt with this and have their own little story behind it.
So this is from a lady who sent us a email earlier this week.
So this young lady has just broken up with her boyfriend that she has been with for about 2 ½ years. No cheating was involved. But its going on about 3 months and she hasn’t found anybody worth her time. At the same time her ex is still in her ear. She is wondering if she should go back or not.
So I propose the Questions to the Ask The Dubb community, Have you ever been in this situation? Did you go back and what was the outcome?
So is it a good idea to double back or not!?!?
yea i went back and it was all good for alil then as xpected da mofo went back to her old ways... smh
ReplyDeleteI would have to agree with mete! i went back and things were absolutely GREAT......for a few months, then he turned back into the monster i dumped the first time!! I think that some serious communication and determination has to take place for a double-back to work! the couple would really have to get to the root of why they broke up the first time and see if that issue can be resolved...HONESTY is KEY!!!!
ReplyDeleteWell, if you Double back just because you can't find someone else, then No. Depends on the terms you split in the first place...If it didn't work before, unless the two have changed, the it won't work now...
ReplyDelete3 months isn't a long time at all. I'm not saying "don't double back" as a hard rule but most people do it just because they want SOMEBODY, not THATBODY, when you find yourself missing the person, the conversations you would have with them to affection and the love THEN it's right to go back, not just because you haven't found someone new and your ex is in your ear, because just like Mete said the same ish is gonna crop back up and you have to start from day one. Missing being with another person is normal, we are creatures of habit... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-fLXBwLZkio
ReplyDeleteBoth partners have to want the double-back to work...and they both have to be willing to put in the work it takes to make this time better!!!
ReplyDeleteWell as a old head once told me "Young man...its just some shit you dont do" and to that young lady...this is one of them! One out of the two gon always be throwing up the ish from the past. As the saying goes "I can forgive you...but I will never forget"
ReplyDeleteYou know how niggas be he in her ear cause he wont that old thing back. Nigga probably don't want the relationship back but to hit that ass just one more time
ReplyDeleteI guess the question that has to be asked is, do people really change? I mean we all have said some things because we know that what the other person expects. I think it is easier for people to "double back" if the other person has made a mistake i.e. cheated or lied vs. if there is a lack of trust or communication. When it all boils down we are who we are and if you want that person to change then that means you really arent in love with that person.
ReplyDeleteBut if that "thang" got that kung fu grip then hey it might be worth a double back. But you wont be there for long!
The kung fu grip will get ya everytime. But I feel where you coming from...there is the rare occasion that 2 people can come back together and make it work but it requires just that...WORK!
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